LA Teen Therapist Encourages Mutual Respect

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

I feel it is essential to model to our future generations how to live together in peace. Towards this end, I devote my days to teaching parents and teens how to respond to each other in conscious and respectful ways. – Sandra

The reason I offer a FREE Initial Parent Consultation is to confirm that I am a good match for your family. If your family is in crisis, I often suggest we meet once a week with the teen, and once a week with the parents–for about 6 weeks. In this manner, I am can do a thorough assessment of the situation and give you my most helpful recommendations.

During this time, you will get an immediate and direct experience of the value I provide. I try to make the experience uplifting as well as educational. My intention is to guide you in ways you can support your teen, with the focus on solutions that will unite the family, rather than assigning blame. There is an inner experience that is driving your teen’s behavior, and my goal is to help uncover and address it, to thus allow the healing of their pain.

In closing, my world travels, together with my work as a teen therapist, have exposed me to people of many backgrounds. What I have learned from my experiences both abroad and locally, is that each individual carries the desire to feel connected and loved … and we are not different in matters of the heart. Thus, the pervading theme of my work has been encouraging the practice of kindness within your family and community.

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes from Gandhi. “I honor the place within you where the entire Universe resides; where, when you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.” Namaste.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

6-Week Parenting Teens Classes

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

“Raising a teenager can be extremely rewarding, exciting, and at the same time, very challenging.” – Sandra

During the often‐trying teen years, it is not uncommon for parents to feel they are failing in their child‐rearing responsibilities. But with the right approach, you can build healthier relationships with your teen and guide them on the path to becoming valued contributors to the community.

My parenting classes are private, and individually tailored to meet each family’s needs. I teach about creating healthy attachment styles, as well as have you reflect upon how the way in which you were parented. Together, we create a timeline representing their child’s journey, and look at how their past experiences may have impacted their development, and current behavior.

We typically meet for six sessions, during which I will give you reading assignments to complete before each session. In each session we examine specific challenges the you are facing with your teen, and I will coach on how to better understand and approach these challenges.

Learn how to strengthen your relationship with your teen while increasing cooperation, harmony, and happiness within the family.

Topics include:

  • Understanding Yourself and Your Teenager
  • Improving Your Response to Your Teen
  • How to Communicate Respect and Understanding
  • Encouraging Cooperation and Problem‐Solving
  • Using Consequences to Build Responsibility

By the end of this intensive 6‐week course, you will be able to help your teenager become more responsible, communicative and independent.

**Recommended for parents with children between the ages of 11 and 19.

I propose a style of interaction with your teen that honors the authority of the parent while accommodating the teen’s need for personal autonomy. Families facing serious problems will be empowered by proven parenting strategies that can truly make a difference in their lives!

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Teen Therapy vs. Life Coaching

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A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist & Life Coach

In a coaching/ mentoring capacity, I can help your adolescent to thrive in all aspects of their life. – Sandra

Some parents are hesitant to take their teen to a therapist to address challenges they may be facing, afraid that they will be labeled a “problem” kid, or emotionally disturbed. Seeking my assistance as a Teen Life Coach & Mentor offers yet another opportunity to remedy these problems.

10+ years as a Teen Therapist has paved the way for my developing creative and positive ways of supporting teenagers. I provide a safe, non-judgmental space for your teen to explore their obstacles, ask their questions and express their feelings.

What Is Teen Life Coaching?
In contrast to therapy, where the therapist is seen as the expert, coaching is a collaborative effort between myself and your teen. My focus is on helping your teen create a vision of the life they would like to create, and supporting them in their journey towards that goal.

Sometimes you may not have the time or energy to be as available to your teen as you would like. It has been said that “It takes a whole village to raise a child.” It can be reassuring for you to know that I am available to assist you in guiding your adolescent towards becoming their best version of themselves.

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Initial Consultation.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

What Is An Atypical Teen?

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A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist

The term atypical teen refers to an adolescent whose path of development is a little more complex than others. – Sandra

Is your teen paralyzed by anxiety, hypersensitive to criticism, or refusing to go to school? Do they struggle in social settings due to ADHD, a learning disorder or high functioning form of autism?

Parents often notice small indications that their child may have a different style of expression and/or learning than some of their peers when their child enters elementary school. But if their child is also highly intelligent, they may be able to compensate for these differences by excelling in their classes and other areas of interest. And so it goes, until adolescence comes into the picture. Then everything changes …

I often meet families with atypical teens in high school. The increase in academic responsibility, together with the heightened expectations that they blend in socially, can tip these young people over. Parents may find their once cooperative child becoming highly reactive, isolating in their room, not turning in assignments, complaining about their friends, and in extreme cases, self-harming.

Clearly, as a parent, you want what is best for your child. At the same time, it is terrifying and painful to watch your child struggle. It may even kick up unresolved negative feelings about your own high school experience. This is where a consultation with a teen therapist can make all the difference. As a seasoned professional, I help parents uncover the problem underlying their teen’s symptoms. I also guide parents on effective next steps, as well as help them contain their own anxiety as they go through the process of healing their child’s pain.

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Initial Consultation.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

The Benefits of Teen Therapy

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Is teen therapy a necessity, luxury, or perhaps a stepping stone to well-being and success? – Sandra

It is not uncommon for parents to seek that cutting edge experience that will boost their teen’s self-esteem, motivation and character. From private tutors, to semesters abroad, parents look for ways to provide their child everything they need to succeed.

In the time of Freud, talk therapy was available only to the select few who could afford it. Self-reflection, through the process of talking to a trained professional, resulted in greater self-awareness and self-acceptance. Symptoms that had long plagued clients were eliminated, as clients came to understand the purpose those symptoms served, and integrate their life experiences.

Today, many parents hesitate to take their teen to a therapist to address the issues that may be impacting their teen’s performance, or quality of life, afraid that they will be labeled problem kids or emotionally disturbed. Yet, if your teen is struggling, a specialist in teenagers can help you to discover the cause and address it.

The reason I offer a free initial parent consultation is to assess the challenges your family is dealing with, and offer my best recommendations on how to remedy the situation.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Choosing A Teen Therapist

A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist

In choosing a therapist for your teenager, you want someone with experience in working with complex teenage issues and family dynamics – Sandra

It is important to choose a therapist who not only has an understanding of adolescent phase of life challenges, but can work masterfully with families in conflict, and support the parents in setting limits. Try to find a therapist with whom you, the parent, feel comfortable and well understood, as you will be trusting them to guide you in the care of your child.

Learn how the therapist will handle keeping you updated about your teen’s process and progress. As your child’s advocate, their job is to join with your teen, that they might learn about, and advise you, on your child’s needs. Ideally, they act as a bridge between the two of you.

Although therapists “in training” are required to spend 500 hours working with children and families, not all therapists have experience working directly with the teen population. Because teens have a developmental journey all their own, that differs significantly from a small child or young adult, it is important that the therapist you choose has a thorough understanding of this phase of life, and it’s associated risks and challenges.

It is important to examine your readiness to embrace the changes that may be necessary for you, your teen, and your family to make, for Teen Therapy is a collaborative relationship. Since you, the parent, will need to reinforce the therapist’s work in your home, additional parent coaching work may be indicated to support you in setting and maintaining firm boundaries, as well as helping to heal the relationship between you and your teen.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Conscious Teen Parenting

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

The foundation of effective parenting is leading by example. – Sandra

A parent’s interactions with their child literally impact their teen’s brain development, with parenting styles often passed down through generations.

In our society, shaming is considered an accepted parenting tool for controlling kids. Yet, body language, facial expressions, the tone and volume of your voice, threatening violence, withholding affection, rejecting behavior, using demeaning words or physical punishment negatively impact a child’s self-esteem and teaches them how to behave in an aggressive behavior.

When you demonstrate respectful interactions with your teen, they learn to treat themselves and others respectfully. The foundation of any respectful disagreements involves avoiding raising your voice, swearing, name-calling and pointing your finger in the other person’s face.

Conscious parenting involves pausing before reacting to evaluate whether your words or actions will actually help the situation. Your child will learn the lesson you are attempting to teach them if you avoid demeaning them in the process.

“Effective Parenting of Teens” Class

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Parenting Teens With ADD

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

It can be challenging to keep your teen on course with all they need to learn in order to become an independent young adult. – Sandra

Unfortunately, angry and irritated responses on your part do nothing to motivate your teen, and only serve to damage your connection with each other. You are both better served by trying to understand why your teen is giving up so easily, such that you might help remedy the problem.
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It is important for your teen to discover how to harness their strengths, to help him/her move towards their dreams. Teens often do not understand the reasoning behind the general education classes, assignments and tests they are required to complete. For teens with learning challenges, it can be like trudging through molasses to turn in assignments. Your teen desperately needs you to understand why he/she is struggling, accept that they are doing the best they are able to do in this moment, and guide them in how they can do better.
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A goal in my working with teens with ADD is to assist your teen in moving beyond their frustrated or defiant stance about school. A tough love approach usually does not work because frustration, not love, is speaking. Teens do best when they feel supported and connected. also, please know that ADD is not a quick fix. Patterns of reaction may be in place between the two of you, as well as with your teen and their schoolwork, that will need to be turned around.
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Parents need to be able to enter into open discussions with their teen where they can discover what their child is feeling, as well as help their child explore their feelings of frustration and upset. Perhaps it’s time for you and your teen to have a chat with the academic counselor at their school about their homework challenges, that the counselor might help you explore options for making up any missed work. Your teen may need to go early to school, stay late, or miss lunch break to complete those assignments.
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It is also not your fault that your teen is struggling. You do not have to feel you must act angry in order to express the seriousness of your concern. Anger can feel like a retaliation for not pleasing you, and confuses the issue altogether. His/her not doing their homework is not a personal defiance of you. It is a cry for help.
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Your teen’s hope and enthusiasm, as well as his/her sense of capability need to be intact as they leave school to finally enter the world. Battles over homework will not accomplish that. There is a better way…..

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Teen Social Skills Coaching

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Does your teen have the social skills that will lead them to success?  – Sandra

Have you noticed that there is a growing trend of teens struggling with social skills and good exacerbated by the explosion of technology and the over-reliance on electronic devices to socially connect? More than ever before, there is an increasing need for social skill-building experiences for these young people.

I work with socially anxious adolescents to identify areas where they can improve their social skills, and then teach them tips and tricks to improve those skills. I can help your teen learn how to gain and keep more friends, as well as become more confident in social situations.

The value of your teen working with me privately, rather than in a group setting, is that I can give them direct feedback specific to their situations, as well as create exercises, role-playing and homework to will help them achieve their personal goals. The teens that have worked with me report greater peace and satisfaction in their social lives.

TOPICS COVERED INCLUDE:

  • First Impressions
  • Reaching Out to Others
  • Managing Peer Conflict
  • The Art of Conversation
  • Becoming More Assertive
  • Communicating Your Needs
  • Establishing Firm Boundaries
  • Helpful Responses to Bullying

I usually work with teens for 6 to 10 consecutive weeks, depending on the desired result. Some teens prefer to meet  twice weekly to obtain a more rapid outcome. My style of working with a teen is collaborative and fun. Although I respect that the challenges they may be experiencing are serious, I have found that a joyful atmosphere makes the learning feel more uplifting and comfortable.

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… One Success Story

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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Quotes From My Past Clients

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Quotes From My Past Clients:

“My teen son was always happy to go see Sandra, and relieved and stress-free when he came back from a session. The best example of her work is in my son’s improved behavior and attitude towards life.” – Parent

“Sandra helped me put a lot of the events in my life into perspective. She listened to me respectfully and never made judgments. I had a great experience with Sandra as my therapist.” – Teen Client

“My teen daughter has calmed down, and no longer carries the same anxiety that she once did. She now likes and accepts herself for who she is.” – Parent

“Sandra provided a safe and supportive environment for me to discuss anything. Her feedback resulted in bettering my self-image, my self-esteem and confidence.” – Teen Client

“Sandra’s work with my teen son has made him a more secure, confident and happy individual. She provided a safe and comfortable place for him to express his feelings and explore his emotions.” – Parent

“After thinking together with Sandra, I discovered solutions to my problems. I always felt comfortable sharing my feelings and thoughts, knowing that she would listen and respond with compassion and support.” – Teen Client

“My teen daughter now sees uncomfortable experiences as an opportunity to grow and learn more about herself. Sandra was a very positive influence in her life.” – Parent

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Your Teen Struggling Academically?

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A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist

Psycho-diagnostic testing is used to determine the cause and nature of a teen’s difficulties with academic performance. – Sandra

COMMON LEARNING DISORDERS INCLUDE:

Once it has been determined that your teen would benefit from an Individualized Education Plan (IEP), your child becomes eligible for special accommodations at school. Some of these include, but are not limited to:

  • Being moved to the front of the classroom.
  • Receiving extra time on tests and quizzes.
  • Written instructions from the teacher regarding homework assignments.
  • Extra time with the teachers.

Clarifying the problem is the first step towards getting your teen the support they need. It is important that school personnel understand that your teen’s challenges are not originating from a behavioral problem. (although frustration stemming from unaddressed learning challenges can result in “acting out” behaviors)

While learning disorders do present a challenge to your teen’s academic success, they do not need to derail their educational process. With emotional and educational support, teens with learning disorders can have a positive and successful high school experience.

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LA Teen Therapist’s FREE E-book

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

I empower teen girls to become their best selves. – Sandra

There isn’t a teenaged girl in America who couldn’t benefit from a visit to a teen therapist’s office to help her negotiate the trauma and drama of the teen years. My Teen Girl Survival Guide is akin to stepping into my office and settling in for an open, frank discussion about topics that trouble today’s teen girls. At the end of the book, I provide further questions for self-reflection.

For those who are ready to take the next step toward becoming independent, respectful, self-aware adults, working with me will help ease the transition from childhood to adolescence, and put your daughter well on her way to becoming a self-aware young woman.

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Teens At Risk For Drug Addiction

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Negative feelings aren’t always comfortable. Self-medication is often an attempt to avoid uncomfortable emotional states. – Sandra

Many people strongly dislike feeling sad, anxious, angry or insecure. So much so, that they will do anything to avoid these feelings, such as taking or drinking mood altering chemicals. People who are at high risk of actually becoming addicted to these substances often lack a feeling of deep connections to others. Meaning, they are emotionally cut off from most of the people in their life.

Adolescence, with all the changes that accompany it, can be an intense time where teens are often overwhelmed by new feelings. Substance abuse in teenagers may be used for attention seeking, escaping feelings of social isolation, and/or fitting in.

Reaching out in times of challenge is always a wise decision. If you have noticed changes in a yourself, your child, or a friend’s behavior that leads you to suspect that drugs are involved, I have numerous resources available to help you to help yourself/them.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Parenting Emotionally Explosive Teens

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Does your teen tend to come unglued when things don’t go their way? – Sandra

According to Dr. Ross Greene, a pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, highly reactive teens have not yet made the skills of flexibility, adaptability, frustration tolerance and conflict resolution their own.

Explosive behavior occurs in teens when the demands of the environment exceed their capacity to respond adaptively. Many popular explanations for explosive behavior place blame on the kid– or his parents. In Collaborative Problem Solving it is believed that if a teen had the skills to exhibit adaptive behavior, he wouldn’t be exhibiting explosive behavior.

VIDEO TUTORIALS FOR WORKING WITH EXPLOSIVE TEENS:

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1. Kids Do Well if They Can — The most important premise of Collaborative Problem Solving is the belief that if kids could behave better they would.

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2. What’s Your Explanation? — Your explanation for your teen’s explosive behavior has major implications for how you respond and whether you’ll try to help.

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3. Three Options for Solving Problems — There are three ways in which adults try to solve problems with reactive kids: Plan A (which is unilateral problem solving), Plan C (dropping the problem completely), and Plan B.

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4. Collaborative Conflict Resolution a.k.a. Plan B — Tips on identifying the unresolved problems that are precipitating challenging episodes, and how to implement Plan B.

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Teens Making A Difference in the World

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What changes would your teen like to see in the world? What are their plans to to contribute to those changes? – Sandra

In the movie “Avatar” the natives of a garden planet greeted each other with the words “I see you.” It was the deepest form of respect that one person could show another. What they were saying is that I see you for who you really are. How often does your teen feel seen in this way?

It seems to me that each teen has something unique to share with the world. For those who are artists, are you helping them find ways to honor their gift of creative expression? Perhaps their music or writing will help someone along their journey.

Not everyone is meant to be a performer or artist. Sometimes, being a good listener, or lending a helping hand can make all the difference in someone’s life. Volunteering to assist others less fortunate is one of the most generous things teens can do with their spare time.

We are all interdependent upon each other. Someone else grows our food, makes our clothes, and builds our homes and schools. The teen years are a time when adolescents are old enough to start reflecting on how they would like to contribute in the world.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Help Your Teen Find Their Tribe

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

There is a group of people out there who will accept and appreciate your teen for exactly who you are, and with whom they can fully be themselves.  –  Sandra

From television viewing, to Internet surfing, to text messaging – teens are spending more time with their phones and computers than with their friends and families. I sit with teenagers every day in my Teen Therapy practice who express how their life feels empty. Apparently, the accumulation of names on a Facebook page do not erase feelings of loneliness.

While technology allows us to stay in touch with many people, time spent commenting through email, text and social networking pages literally translates into less time sitting across from a friend. Is the Internet providing more of an illusion of connection than there actually is?

Teens who are at high risk of becoming addicted to drugs often show a lack of deep connection to the people in their current lives. Self-medication, through substance abuse, is often an attempt by teens to regulate or avoid feelings of loneliness.

The solution to loneliness lies in helping your teen to find their tribe. To create heartfelt relationships, your teen must first learn to know and accept themselves, including all of their quirks, flaws and idiosyncrasies. For only in accepting themselves can they truly make the space to authentically connect with another person.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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For more information, please visit my website:

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Improving Teen’s Self-Esteem

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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Having healthy levels of self-esteem means teens do not need to determine their self-worth by looking to others for validation. – Samdra

Ideally, a teen’s self-worth should be determined by how well they live up to their desired self-image, which hopefully aligns with their beliefs and vision for their life.

    • Does your teen dress to impress?
    • Does he or she pretend to be someone that they are not?
    • Does your teen say things that don’t represent how they really feel?

Where we are born, and where we go to school does not necessarily determine who we are meant to be. We come into this world with unique gifts and talents. We have our own physical expression, as well as our own personality and style. Add to that your life experiences, and areas of interest, and we become an individual like no other.

High school is a phase of life when teens will feel pulled to fit in with the crowd. Yet, by doing this, are they being true to themselves?  The teen years are a time to start thinking where your son or daughter would like to go with their life. By trying on many types of different behavior, they are discovering their authentic expression.

Are they the athletic type? Are they the scholar? Are they an entertainer, or an artist? Are they the peace-maker? These are questions only they can answer for themselves. For some, this may mean raising a family–in a home filled with love. For others, this may mean becoming an educator with a focus on changing the world.

Anything is possible, but first, your teen must get to know themselves, and then find the courage to be themselves in all their magnificence.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Understanding the Teenage Brain

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Here is some important information that describes the developmental changes that occur in teenager’s brains. – Sandra.

  • Has your teen ever felt blue for no obvious reason?
  • Do they ever do things on impulse that they later regret?
  • Have they ever overreacted to a situation and later wondered why?

Adolescence is now starting at younger ages than in previous generations. The average age that girls go into adolescence is between 10 and 11, when they reach 17% body fat. Boys go into adolescence between 12 and 13.

Teenagers are going through a transitional time when the brain rewires itself for emotional attachment, reproduction, and ultimately the creation of a stable family structure. 

There can be a noticeable gap between intelligence and behavior during the teen years. We used to attribute this to the assault of a hormonal hurricane. There is actually a lot more going on in the different structures of the teenage brain that end up having long-term consequences.

The myelin sheathing, which insulates nerves, increases by 100% in teenagers. Myelin sheathing is responsible for the conduction of nerve impulses to the brain. As the nerves become twice as efficient, this feeds the intensity and speed of a person’s reaction, contributing to the experience of mood swings.

The teen years are also time of the lowest levels of Serotonin in the human brain during human life. Serotonin is the primary transmitter in the limbic system, having to do with morale and moods. Low serotonin levels create a state in which a teens are more susceptible to feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

The brain does not grow in an orderly fashion. It first over-produces a bunch of connections that go to new parts of the brain. Then, in the later teen years-around age 16 through the mid-20’s-it starts eliminating connections based on how frequently they are used. The connections that remain determine a person’s sense of identity.

Did you know that the teenage brain does not complete development until close to age 25? Yes, something called the pre-frontal cortex, which is responsible for impulse control and operates much like the CEO of a company, does not complete development until your mid-twenties, leaving teens vulnerable to impulsive behavior.

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Start a Teen Girl Support Group

I am interested in starting a support and discussion group for teen girls in our community. Could you please tell me how to get this started?

INFORMATION ON HOW TO START A TEEN GIRL SUPPORT GROUP:

1. You may want to start by calling, emailing or delivering flyers to the local churches, schools and teen activity centers stating where and when this group will be offered.

2. I would recommend that you download a copy of my FREE E-book: “What Would Your Teen Life Coach Say? and make copies to distribute to each of the girls on the first meeting.

3. The format could vary, but here is a format that I have used:

  • GENERAL FORMAT
    Everybody is seated circle so that they can see ever group member’s face, including those on either side of them. Each person is given the opportunity to speak.  Members are asked to speak loudly enough for everyone in the circle can hear them.
  • NO INTERRUPTING
    Participants are asked to not interrupt the speakers, though this “rule” may be broken if the topic is very stimulating. (In this case, it is the facilitator’s decision to allow or disallow the interruption.)
  • USE OF “I” STATEMENTS
    Respect is a key element to this group,  and gossiping about others is not allowed. Members will be encouraged to use “I” statements to take personal ownership for their thoughts and feelings.
  • PARTICIPATION IS VOLUNTARY
    No one is forced to participate in group discussions, however, everyone will be encouraged. Active participation in the group discussions will allow the participants to learn from each other, as well as discover that they are not alone in their feelings,
  • CREATING A SAFE SPACE
    The main ground rule is that everything discussed in group is held in confidence so as to create a safe space for members to feel free to open up. Being under the influence of drugs or alcohol will be unacceptable. Any casual discussions of drugs or alcohol will also be discouraged.

HERE ARE GENERAL QUESTIONS FOR THE GROUP TO REFLECT ON:

  1. As your body transitions from childhood to adulthood, are you reaching out to the more experienced women in your life — mothers, siblings, aunts?
  2. Do you sometimes have difficulty letting go of some friendships even though you realize it is probably time to move on?
  3. Do you try too hard to please others and then end up feeling unhappy or anxious?
  4. When choosing friends do you seek out the most popular people, or do you prefer to find those with whom you can have an enjoyable conversation?
  5. Are you honest and clear about who you are, or do you hide the most precious parts of yourself for fear of being hurt?
  6. If you feel insulted, do you have the maturity to respond without attacking back?
  7. Is expressing your truth easy for you, or do you often pretend to agree with your friends’ opinions?
  8. Instead of complaining and blaming others, do you take responsibility and turn a negative situation around?
  9. Are you willing to settle for any guy just to have a boyfriend, or are you brave enough to keep looking for someone who is right for you?
  10. While dreaming about what you may still want, how often do you express gratitude for what you already have?
  11. How often do you compare yourself to others?
  12. Do you find yourself making unsafe choices? If so, do you know why?
  13. When someone says or does something that troubles you, do you initiate a talk that might clear the air?
  14. Do you believe you have the right to be treated with kindness and respect?
  15. Are you awkward around boys that you find attractive? If so, what are some things you can do to make yourself feel more comfortable?
  16. Do you keep silent and let your boyfriend tell you what to do, or do you feel free to express your own ideas?
  17. Are you likely to give in to peer pressure, or are you confident enough to listen to your own wisdom?
  18. When you get dressed for school, do you always remember to put on a smile?
  19. Is being “authentic” something common in your world or rare?
  20. Do you change to please others or because the change makes sense to you?
  21. Are you open to trying new experiences and meeting new people?
  22. Do you get caught up in the popularity contest?
  23. Are you in any relationships that intimidate you?
  24. Are you aware when you are completely being yourself and when you are pretending to be someone else?
  25. What is it about yourself that makes you feel proud?
  26. What does your favorite song say about who you are?
  27. If you were asked to write a story of your teen years, what key events would you include?
  28. In years to come, when you look back on your life thus far, will you laugh, cry, feel embarrassed or proud?
  29. What hope or thought carries you through challenging times?
  30. Are you already living the life you want, or are you still waiting for your life to begin?

Once the girls have gotten to know each other, you can invite them to bring in topics that they would like to discuss. Initially, it helps to have a facilitator ask the question, and give everyone a chance to answer.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Preventative Therapy For Teenagers

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With residents from 140 different cultures, speaking over 200 languages, LA has become one of the most dynamic cities to raise a teen. – Sandra

Due to managed care, treatment options for adolescents who are struggling often fall short of a full assessment, and a holistic approach grounded in wellness and prevention. Teen Therapy needs to not only provide symptom relief but empower teen clients with emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and attachment building exercises, to meet the rapid changes they are encountering.

Emerging science now offers us an inside look at how imbalances in the teen brain affects their moods, behavior, relationships and academic performance. Studies also show that the experience of being empathically understood in therapy can literally change a teen’s brain; building new neural networks in the teen’s pre-frontal cortex, and increasing the size of the memory storing part of their brain.

Did you know that much of what insurance companies refer to as “mental illness” can be prevented, by educating families about the complex connections between mental health, and diet, neurobiology, environment and culture? Effective therapeutic treatment of teenagers must therefore include multi-disciplinary approaches that can help address emotional challenges unsuccessfully resolved by talk therapy alone.

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.