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Teens: Does Being Popular = Being Mean?
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A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE POPULAR?
Being popular may mean that a lot of people know who you are, and try to get your attention. It could also mean that you are trustworthy, fair, and someone that others turn to for your wisdom, support and great sense of humor.
WHAT ARE THE REASONS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE POPULAR?
I imagine that you have an idea of how your life would be different, and somehow better, if you became more popular. It might be helpful to write down the things you think you would gain by becoming a popular girl at your school.
Then, write down a list of things that you might also need to give up in order to gain that popular status.
HOW WOULD BEING POPULAR CHANGE YOUR LIFE?
Would you need to gossip, or be rude to others? Would you be constantly worrying whether someone else is more popular than you?
Does being popular mean that you always have to be concerned with how you look, or what other people are saying about you? How would you know who your true friends are?
WHY ARE PEOPLE MEAN?
Being mean may be an indication that someone is not very happy. People who choose to be hurtful, and rejecting of others, may be struggling with some insecurities that they try to hide by appearing tough, or overly confident.
NOT EVERYONE HANDLES BEING POPULAR IN THE SAME WAY
Being popular can actually be an opportunity to make a positive difference in your world. Like the celebrities who use their influence to help others, you could be a positive role model that your classmates look up to.
And, if you choose to pursue popularity, please don’t forget the people who already love you for who you are.
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Teens: Journaling To A Happier You
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A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach
BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF
In any moment you are complete just as you are. The person you will be in 20 years from now resides within you right now. Your job, in this lifetime, is to give yourself the room to express your best self.
GETTING RID OF EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE
To do this, you must clear out the emotional baggage you have started to accumulate and examine all the things you believe are important. By understanding how you create the world you live in, you can take charge and start building a life that fulfills you.
THE VALUE OF KEEPING A JOURNAL
The process of journaling is designed to teach you how to meet life honestly and openly, and work through your feelings, experiencing your emotions completely. Examining your life challenges allows you figure out ways to resolve them.
JOURNALING DAILY
If you are willing to make a commitment to writing in your journal every night, the process of self-reflection can guide you toward a more independent and fulfilled you. If you want to be the master of your own destiny, journaling is a great way to begin.
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Teens: How Is Your Self-Esteem?
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Having healthy levels of self-esteem means you do not need to determine your self-worth by looking to others for validation. – Sandra
- Do you dress to impress?
- Do you find yourself saying things that don’t represent how you really feel?
- Do you pretend to be someone that you are not?
LET ME SHARE A STORY WITH YOU
There was once a lion cub that got separated from his pack when he was a baby. He was adopted by a herd of sheep, and lived with them comfortably for many years. They ate grass together, slept together, and ran away from predators together.
One day, when he was an adolescent, he was exploring near a pond, and a fully grown lion showed up and asked him what he was doing out there by himself. The cub shook, and looked for an escape, and pleaded in his sheepish voice “baaah”.
The grown lion then directed the cub to look in the pond at the image of them side by side. With amazement, the cub realized he was not a sheep at all, and with a little encouragement from the elder, he threw back his head and roared.
FINDING YOUR AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION
Where we are born, and where we go to school does not necessarily determine who we are meant to be. You come into this world with unique gifts and talents. You have your own physical expression, as well as your own personality and style. Add to that your life experiences, and areas of interest, and you have an individual like no other.
ADOLESCENCE IS A TIME OF EXPLORATION
By trying on many types of different behavior, you are discovering your authentic expression. Are you the athletic type? Are you the scholar? Are you an entertainer, or an artist? Are you the peace-maker? These are questions only you can answer for yourself.
THERE IS LIFE BEYOND SCHOOL
High school is a time when you will feel pulled to fit in with the crowd. Yet, by doing this, are you being true to yourself? You may want to start thinking where you would like to go with your life
WHAT IS YOUR VISION FOR YOUR LIFE?
For some, this may mean raising a family in a home filled with love. For others, this may mean becoming an educator and contributing to changing the world. Anything is possible, but first, you must get to know yourself, and then find the courage to be yourself in all your magnificence.
If your teen is struggling with their self-image, I can help discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family.
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